Moving On

To a victim of any form of abuse, everyday existence can be a struggle. After feeling depressed, oppressed and caught on a one-way path, you are lucky enough if you have made the choice to stand and fight back. Life after the abuse is liberating but the struggle does not simply end there. Whether you are a victim of sexual abuse, physical abuse or relationship abuse, recovering from abuse and living your own life to the fullest is a good choice.


Support is Everywhere

A lot of people will stand by your decision and help you recover from abuse after you have decided to fight for yourself and live a new life. But the decision to smile and be happy once again is still within you. If you are recovering from abuse, here are some important things you should keep in mind to help you find the real joy of living:


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  1. You are never alone

Feeling lonely and empty is one of the most common emotional states of people who are recovering from abuse. Along with these symptoms, you may experience sleepless nights, fear and anxiety. No matter how bad you feel after leaving an abusive relationship or standing on your own against an abuse, you should keep in mind that you are not alone in your struggle. There are a lot of people who are willing to extend an arm and help you get back on track. All you need to do is to break down the walls you have made around you and be ready to accept their support.


  1. You made the right choice

The choice to stand against abuse is the right choice. Congratulations! You were not born in this world to be a victim and not recover. You were born to find hope, experience joy and feel loved. You are entitled to have a good life. It’s time for you to make the right choices for yourself from this day forward.


  1. You need to forgive yourself

It is wrong to believe that you are at fault why the abuse happened. It did not happen because you are weak, incapacitated or that there is something wrong with you. You are a victim of circumstances and of an abusive person or situation. You need to accept the fact that you are not at fault. Forgive yourself, make peace with your past no matter how painful and open your heart and mind to the things the future has to offer.


  1. You can take your time

Recovering from abuse does not happen overnight. For victims who have been struggling for years, recovery may take more years or even decades. You don’t have to force yourself into adapting to a new life after experiencing terrible mistreatments. Take as much time as you can until you finally find yourself walking down the path you are destined to take.



An abuse can leave a deep wound in any person’s heart but it does not have to remain painful forever. Take time to let the wound heal and while you’re at it, smile and stay positive.